Chicago Banana

Personal musings of female residing at times in the greater Chicago area.

Sunday, April 10, 2005


Do you think people can change?

I've always heard that people never change, but I certainly hope they do. I hope I still change, for I am far from perfect. Unless you buy that it is all nature and no nurture, we obviously are still moldable at some point in our lives. So when is the cutoff? 12? 3? 24? Someone should announce it so we know when our time is almost up. "Change now, because next year it will be too late."

I would love to see that as a birthday greeting on a Hallmark card.


  • At 11:42 PM, Blogger feesh said…

    more importantly, what causes us to change

    i don't know if we can change our core, as in, our spirit. the most fundamental definition of who we are. but we are most capable of changing our actions and behaviors. The supplementary parts of our core.

  • At 12:04 AM, Blogger Duchess of Hope said…

    I don't know if this is always the case, but quite a few people I know change through hard times and tragedy.

    I run, so I hang out with a bunch of runners here, and they can be divided into two main groups. One group enjoys running, but has a healthy balance in other areas. The other group is consumed with running. Running is their life. They could never marry a non-runner because their lives are so caught up with the sport. Most of their friends are runners. Then there are the people drifting in the middle between groups. Most of the drifters are people who began as "running is my life" then got disappointed, or injured.

    It can be other things too. I am a full-blooded German, an ethnic group known for how hard working they are, and I see that trait in my family. My maternal grandmother has been a huge example to me, because she cares for my grandfather and supports him, but she has come to realize what is important in life. My mom says that the change came about when my mom was in college. My grandmother took some medication she was allergic to and was in the hospital for months.

    Trajedy and hardship doesn't always change us, but I have seen people change so much because of them. I have changed through the hard times in my life. I am still changing. At least I think I am. And I know I have seen some of my classmates change radically in four years here.

    So maybe the core is always the same, but there are some deep layers that I have seen altered.


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